August 24, 2011
Try as I might, I’ve never been able to find a manual for raising kids. I’ve searched bookstores, googled the topic until my thumb turned blue and visited what feels like thousands of parenting sites all purported to be experts on the subject.
Here is what I have learned. While gathering advice is good, it really depends upon your child and your parenting techniques. There is no “right” way to raise a child and you shouldn’t let anyone tell you different. Even those well meaning friends. I’m not saying that doctors don’t know what they are talking about. All I am suggesting is that you take the advice, and mold it into something that works best for you and your child. The hair on my chest curls when I read about “parenting methods” that are fail proof. Maybe they are for other children, but certainly not mine.
On a side note, don’t you love the parents that talk about how perfect their child is? How they certainly NEVER experience what you are going through, which translates into “you really suck as a parent.” I just got another gray hair, thanks. And they are full of crap or on crack. I vote for both.
My husband and I have finally figured it out. Our method? Fly by the seat of your pants. Keep your arms and legs inside the vehicle at all times and for goodness sakes, don’t forget your seat belt. I guarantee you one thing. Once you think you have figured it out? It will change.
In the mean time? Just love them. They are really cute when they are asleep.